Waiting For Fertility In An Instant Gratification World

The one common thread with all women trying to get pregnant is we want it to happen NOW. It’s the waiting to see if you are pregnant that is the hardest for women.  And each month that creeps by is one more month lost to the ethers.  Then, it’s the starting all over again - temperature, timed sex, everyday sex (because hey, you never know).  A lot of work and no results.  It can be daunting and really hard.  The pandemic may have slowed some of this urgency, but it will pick back up as soon as our lives return to normal.

In the past, women had to wait to get pregnant because there weren’t any medical procedures to help them.  My grandmother, for instance, had three children early on in her life and then she had to wait 10 years to have her fourth and 8 years to have her fifth. And many others from that generation waited in silence, miscarried, and adopted.

Getting pregnant didn't happen instantly for many women.  So why is it so unacceptable to just wait?  Because now, we do have technology and science to help us.  But are they helping us or just creating a culture where waiting is not an option.  You have to answer this for yourself.  It was very hard for me to wait.  I wanted to take anything and everything to have a baby.  But with the help of my acupuncturist, I did wait.  It took me two years to finally get the results that I craved and it was all worth it.  

Some women will need to take Clomid or will have to do IUI and IVF because of health issues, but we can also implement holistic practices to get the results we desire.  Holistic practices can increase the chances of getting pregnant so why not try them. 

Here is a sampling of what I tried to enhance my fertility: acupuncture, herbs, allergy testing, diet adjustment, feng shui, yoga for fertility, quitting my job, a partner workshop and meditation.  What I know for sure is that everyone has their own unique fertility journey - so a one-size-fits-all approach does not work.  

And maybe there is a bigger plan at work that is not clear to you.  When I look back now…if I had gotten pregnant when I wanted to, I would have missed out on being pregnant while my best friend was pregnant.  We ended up having our babies 2 weeks apart!  Justine and I were able to raise our babies together!  I could not have planned for a better introduction into motherhood than to have done it with my best friend.  What a gift that was worth the wait!

Be well! Carry on, Goddesses!